We are delighted to welcome couples from our local community and from all over the country who wish to begin their married life in a ceremony at the Church of the Holy Cross. The day of your Wedding will be one of the most important days of your life. We will do all we can to ensure that it is a happy occasion and that all the arrangements for the ceremony run smoothly. We hope that the information given here will answer many of your questions.

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N.B.
If you are resident in the parish and either of you has been divorced it is sometimes possible to conduct a Marriage Service in Church. However, please be aware that such permission is not granted automatically and this would involve a considerable period of thought and reflection to discern whether it would be appropriate. A Service of Prayer and Dedication following a Civil Marriage may otherwise be arranged. Please speak with the Vicar.

LEGAL MATTERS

You can marry in the Church of the Holy Cross if you can show:- That one of you:

  1. has at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or
  2. was baptised in the parish or
  3. was prepared for confirmation in the parish or
  4. has at any time regularly gone to normal church services in the Church of the Holy Cross for a period of at least 6 months or

That one of your parents, at any time after you were born:

  1. has lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months or
  2. has regularly gone to normal church services in the Church of the Holy Cross for a period of at least 6 months or

That one of your parents or grandparents:

  1. was married in the parish

And did you know that if you move house, you’re immediately connected to the church here? . In all cases involving church services – i.e. going to normal church services, baptism, confirmation or marriage – this applies only to Church of England services.

BANNS OF MARRIAGE

This public announcement of your intention to marry is made in the Church of England Parishes in which each of you live on three Sundays in succession, not more than three months before the Wedding Day. You will be notified of the dates on which your Banns will be read in one of our churches. If one of you is resident outside this Parish, you are responsible for contacting your Parish Church to arrange for Banns to be published there. You need to remember to obtain from there a Banns Certificate, which is necessary for the marriage ceremony to proceed.

DATE AND TIME

We strongly advise you not to make any arrangement or bookings, especially if they involve printers or caterers, before you have made quite sure that the service can take place on the day and time of your choice. Please consult us first!

MUSIC

Most couples wish their ceremony to include music – organ music before and after the service, and two or three hymns. For your guidance, a list of hymns will be made available. If you wish for any special music to be played or sung, or have questions about music for your wedding service please speak to the vicar.

SERVICE SHEETS

If you wish to order specially printed service sheets for the ceremony, please make sure that you check the hymns, the wording and layout with the vicar – before giving the printers definite instructions.

ONLY WHEN HE HAS APPROVED YOUR ORDER OF SERVICE CAN IT BE PRINTED

Please ensure you print enough copies for all the guests (including friends and neighbours who might come to the service even if they are not invited to the reception). Please note that although we shall seek to adhere to your wishes, the final decision in respect of the contents of the service (music, hymns, readings, prayers etc) lies with the vicar.

FLOWERS

There are generally flowers in Church throughout the year, except during Lent (the six weeks leading up to Easter) and Advent. Our Flower arrangers will be glad to meet with you and talk through what we can offer.

FEES

A separate Table of Fees will be provided. The fees for your Wedding should be paid at three months prior to the ceremony.

PHOTOGRAPHS AND VIDEO RECORDING

When you discuss your wishes with your Photographer please inform them that no photographs may be taken during the ceremony other than during the Signing of the Registers. Your Marriage Ceremony will be an act of worship and it is important that there should be nothing to distract any of those present from joining in reverently and fully. In the event of wet weather on the day of the wedding, we shall be happy to allow photographs to be taken in Church after the service, when this is convenient. Video Recording of the Service may be permitted under certain circumstances.

USHERS AND ATTENDANTS

To welcome your guests to church it can help to nominate two friends of the Bride and Groom to act as Ushers. Their task is to give out Hymn Books/Service Sheets and deal with any last minute concerns. Those whom you choose for this task should be at the Church at least half an hour before the service begins.

MARRIAGE PREPARATION

As you prepare to seek God’s Blessing on your future life together, we want to assure you of our support and our prayers; and we would like to offer you two practical ways of preparing for your married life:

Worship
We should like to assure you of a particularly warm welcome at our Sunday Worship. Our main Sunday service is at 10 am where you will have the opportunity to become part of the Christian family and learn more about the Love of God.

Marriage Preparation
To help you prepare fully for your marriage and your life together you will meet together with the parish priest, Father David, for a number of informal chats exploring what marriage means for you and your partner.

OTHER INFORMATION

The Vicar, Father David Beresford, will be happy to answer any questions you may have. Contact him at the Vicarage or call at Church any Sunday morning.

Weddings FAQs (Church of England Website)